In today’s world, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the division that seems to permeate our social, political, and cultural spaces. The headlines and online chatter often amplify conflict, pushing us to pick sides and reinforcing an “us versus them” mentality. While it’s natural to feel a sense of belonging within certain groups, this can also lead to tribalism—an intense loyalty to one group at the expense of others. But what if we shifted our focus? What if, instead of dwelling on division, we embraced the idea of being part of multiple “teams” that enrich our lives?
Who Are Your Teams?
We all belong to a variety of teams, whether we’re conscious of it or not. These teams exist on different levels and contribute to our sense of identity and connection:
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Family and Close Friends: This is your most intimate team, the people who know you best and support you through life’s ups and downs.
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Community: This might include neighbors, local groups, or organizations you’re involved in. These are the people you share a sense of place and purpose with.
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Work and Professional Circles: Whether it’s colleagues or collaborators, these teams help you achieve goals and navigate challenges in your career.
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Shared Interests and Passions: From hobby groups to sports teams, these connections are built on mutual enjoyment and shared enthusiasm.
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Broader Social Identity: This includes your cultural, national, or global affiliations—the larger groups that remind us of our shared humanity.
Identifying these teams can help you see the layers of connection in your life and recognize the value they bring.
The Problem with Tribalism
Tribalism can create a sense of belonging, but it often comes with a cost. When we see the world in terms of “in-groups” and “out-groups,” we’re more likely to:
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Judge harshly: Dismissing or dehumanizing those who aren’t part of our group.
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Avoid empathy: Losing the ability to see things from another perspective.
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Limit growth: Missing opportunities to learn from diverse ideas and experiences.
Shifting the Focus to Positive Connection
Instead of falling into the traps of division, we can make a conscious effort to foster positive connections within our teams. Here’s how:
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Start with Self-Reflection: Take a moment to identify your teams. Who are the people and groups that truly matter to you? How do they support you, and how do you contribute to them?
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Practice Gratitude: Recognize and appreciate the roles these teams play in your life. Expressing gratitude strengthens bonds and reminds us of our interconnectedness.
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Seek Common Ground: Whether it’s a colleague with different political views or a neighbor from a different background, look for shared values and goals.
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Tune Out the Noise: Be mindful of media and rhetoric that thrive on division. Instead, seek out stories and messages that emphasize unity and understanding.
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Give Back: Strengthen your teams by contributing positively—whether it’s being more present with family, volunteering in your community, or supporting global causes.
Embracing a Broader Perspective
When we focus on the teams in our lives, we’re reminded of how interconnected we all are. Our family, community, and broader affiliations don’t have to compete with each other. Instead, they can coexist, offering us strength, support, and a sense of purpose. By stepping away from tribalism and embracing our multiple teams, we create a ripple effect of positive connection that can extend far beyond ourselves.
Let’s take a step back from the division and remember that we are all part of something bigger. Together, we can build bridges, foster understanding, and create a world that values connection over conflict.
Call to Action: Take a few minutes today to write down your teams and how they contribute to your life. Consider one small action you can take this week to strengthen those connections. Share your experience with someone you trust and encourage them to do the same. Let’s make connection—not division—the foundation of our lives.